How To Be A Woman (The Yin Warrior)
May 13, 2008 by Candice Schutter
(response to How to Be A Man by Steve Pavlina)
The
Yin Warrior is an ancient archetype, and a woman of
a new and enlightened world. She is the wayshower
for the many who yearn for the Feminine to
re-emerge as compassionate, empathic
leadership.
The
Order of Life for the Yin Warrior is:
Instinct:
elemental
connection with her environment (her physical body
being the most important environment to fully
embody)
Intuition:
the way
that life speaks to and through her through
Instinct (felt sensation) as a foundation
Interdependence:
how her instincts and intuitions enable her to
effectively interact with others in relationships
For too long the Yin Warrior has been asleep in our
culture. The Order of Life for women has been
operating backwards. Relationships are often put
before all else - overriding both the impulses of
Instinct and Intuition. Intuition has been
overshadowed by measurable truths or mistaken for
mystical fantasy. And Instinct - spoken through the
physical body world - has become a vehicle in which
to meet desired ends, rather than a sacred space to
embody as the foundation of life.
Let's re-visit The Order of Life for the Yin
Warrior through some of her many tools:
INSTINCT
A woman has a visceral knowing - being one with the
earth. She understands the elemental dust from
which she - and all things - arise from and return
to. She embraces the body in its curvaceous
celebration of the cyclical nature of form. The
body is her temple and
instinct is the voice of the
Earth itself echoing through its walls. As the
space through which life enters, she is masterful
at understanding energetic landscapes and the
weather patterns of the life unfolding all around
her. Her body speaks volumes through sensation.
Sensation
She becomes silent enough to attend to the winds
within her body and its resulting rhythms. Harmony
is found in nature and her connection to it. All of
life around her is Nature speaking to her. She
asks:
Are you listening? How is the flow of the Body
World supporting your desires in the moment? Is
there resistance? In which direction can your steer
the vessel of your life so that flow is found
again? She makes choices that
yield to a rhythm her body can move through with
ease. She cultivates strength by befriending grace
and sensation as allies. She is a master of
patience in the birth of all things.
Perhaps most importantly in this time of
women-against-women... she puts down her sword of
judgement once and for all. The Yin Warrior wields
no weapon. She shines with an Open Heart - as it is
the only "protection" she needs. When anyone
(including another woman!) speaks, the Yin Warrior
listens with her entire body. She overrides the
cultural tendency to self-compare (attire,
physique, age, etc); competition is meaningless to
her. Instead she hears what is being said beneath
the surface of things, using her body as a
fine-tuned instrument of presence and discernment
so that she may re-create harmony.
Harmony
She makes her personal
well-being a first priority and a felt
sensation. She asks:
When something "goes wrong" in your environment,
where do you go to address the disharmony? Do you
frantically resist your environment outside, hoping
to change your internal landscapes? What does it
take to restore a sense of balance in your body and
heart? The Yin Warrior
cultivates self-love by taking overt actions that
affirm how her life
matters to her.
The Yin Warrior listens to her own rhythms and
instincts first and foremost. She feels no need to
criticize, gossip, or complain... for she
understands all impulses rippling in and around her
are mirrors through which to see herself more
clearly. She looks closely in such moments, and
discerns how she might care for herself and the
world around her more efficiently. Through
self-nurturing, she re-aligns herself with the
voice of her instincts (and the environment
responds with harmony in accordance with her
self-love). Her god-given enchantment is nurtured
on a soulular level, so any measures to adorn her
physical form are meant to enhance her natural
radiance.
INTUITION
A woman knows without knowing how. An
inner-aligment with instinct is the foundation for
intuition. Tuning in - sensing the world within and
without - is the grid upon which the heart rests in
its knowing.
Radiant
Knowledge
The knowing of the heart is radial. It
encompasses
all - even the unseen - in
its assessment of the moment. This is why instinct
coupled with sensation is the foundation of such
knowledge. Without this radial awareness, instinct
becomes egocentric and blind to the whole. Fearful
instincts are not considered in context, and are
thus mistaken for intuitive knowing. Therefore, the
Yin Warrior is firmly anchored in the body world so
that she may be a conduit for knowledge of another
kind.
When intuition comes, it need not be accompanied by
fireworks. It creeps up in the heart of a woman,
and she knows not its true source. A sudden
awareness emerges - through thought, word, image,
or sensation. The Yin Warrior holds this knowing up
against her internal compass which measures its
implications on the environment around her. Only
when a confirmation responds from within does she
give movement to her knowledge.
Emphatic
Truth
Empathy is that which makes necessary the path of
the woman as a
warrior archetype in our
existing culture. Empathy is the tool the Yin
Warrior lives her life learning to understand. A
woman who embraces her inherent gifts and is in
touch with the world around her may sometimes feel
bombarded with information and stimulation.
Sensation is heightened and can overwhelm the body.
Intuition is activated and can overwhelm the heart
and mind. The Yin Warrior applies her empathic
abilities to balance these tendencies, as she
receives from so many sources at once. Once
balanced, empathy says, I sense the energy that is
present while knowing that I am
she who is sensing. I do not confuse
myself with the energetic environment in which I
live... nor that which I interact with. I do not
confuse your experience with the truth of who you
are. I see behind the veils of this world; and
therefore, I never lose my faith in love.
In this way, truth is welcome in a new way. The Yin
Warrior speaks great truth with an ease, an
acceptance, a grace. She shares what is alive
inside of her without becoming lost in the
experience. She comes from a place of harmony... so
no matter the potency of the honesty she transmits,
she is understood in her intention to create
connection. She is direct and clear in her
communication, but never confrontational.
Connection is her starting point, and her endpoint.
She is truly a conduit of love through word and
action.
INTERDEPENDENCE
When instinct (physical radiance) and intuition
(heart radiance) are attended to, a woman is at one
with her world. It is then that relationship
reveals itself Whole through her.
Partner
with the Beloved He
The Yin Warrior knows that the union of Her Most
Sacred Heart with the Beloved He comes first. She
places her body, heart, and soul in union with the
force of life... and it dances her with a graceful
ease. Her life is meant to service and nurture
Relationship the the All of Life, first and
foremost. This is the Divine Marriage through which
she will find her greatest joys and sorrows
(both
of which
she honors and treasures for their unique gifts).
The
Infinite Spaceholder
The Yin Warrior holds space through which life can
happen. She is the fertile soil of the land. No
matter how the fields of her heart are tended, she
returns to wholeness again and again. Resilience as
a concept can not do her justice. Nor the concept
of the Survivor, for it implies victimhood. She is
no victim, regardless of circumstance. She is the
ultimate power of acceptance. Divine acceptance
that sees through veils of personalities,
challenges, and consequence. Her choices are sacred
acts of love - each a birth of life worth
celebrating to fruition. And, knowing nature, she
knows this... ALL will bear fruit, in due time.
The Nurturer, she pulls all of life to her bosom in
order to shed light of love.
Treat all as innocent
children, she whispers.
Accept this world. Love it whole in order to change
it.